Ho'oponopono

Meditation and mantra for cleansing the heart

I’ve lately been searching my soul as part of a process to mend a deep wound in my heart, grief that came as a result of my participation in a misunderstanding that led to the apparent loss of a relationhip with someone who has been very dear and important to me for the better part of a decade. For months I was stuck in the energy of fear of losing her, which I actually manifested a couple of weeks ago. I could not move forward from my grief.

My healing journey led me to find this video on YouTube, guided and produced by one Michaël Bijker. I knew when I found it that it would be very powerful, and I want to share some of the results I’ve already had from putting it into practice daily.

I’ve seen the word ho’oponopono for years but never knew what it meant. I’m very grateful to Michael for making this teaching and practice available to the public free of charge. From the comments and testimonials on the video, it is apparent that for many it has brought seemingly miraculous healing. From this I believed that it would help me and the other party in this regrettable conflict. That person cut ties with me, so it was important to me that I could do something practical to better the situation despite the fact that I have no means of apologizing to her and begging her forgiveness — a situation seemingly impossible to reconcile in a satisfactory manner.

Since I put it into practice about a week ago, it has helped me tremendouly to find acceptance and to heal my aching heart, but to my surprise it has also helped other people near me.

While I had been wallowing in my own self-pity, my best friend and his new girlfriend of three months had also been having a serious misunderstanding and conflict that threatened to end their relationship. I had withdrawn from social life, neglecting basic self-care and did not even go through the motions of trying to go out and enjoy life.

Meanwhile, I had to deal with their drama almost daily. I care about my friend and his girlfriend, whom I also consider a friend and a worthy person and tried to support them separately as best I could, though I was really in no state of mind to be of any good to anyone.

My friends saw that I was in deep pain and the girlfriend took it upon herself to arrange that we all three go together out to the beach last Sunday, to at least go through the motions of enjoying the afternoon, and possibly have a chance to talk. My best friend himself was wallowing in self-pity, in a bad mood, and did not cooperate but was present in body.

We all just did our own thing, as conversation really was not possible. I decided to take advantage of the breeze, sun, surf and view, and stood in the water focusing on and chanting the ho’oponopono mantra.

We eventually returned home starving, apparently not having had a good time together. However, they, having dragged me out of the house did me a great service that reflected back to them. In fact I did have a good time. I found inner peace and joy again in those moments, something I earlier thought was impossible. And I carried that mood with me for the remainder of the evening.

My friends made dinner together, hardly speaking to each other, and shared it with me. As we sat down together to eat, I was still focused on inner healing and put the meditation on the sound system so that we could all hear it together. The sound level was quite low and the speech was practically unintelligible, however as the mantra part of the session began, it filled the room and we all stopped silent to listen and focus.

I could see very clearly that, I serving as unwitting shaman or intermediary for those moments, had effected a healing in both of my freinds just by being present and introducing this into the moment. I could see that my good friend was choking down tears and sobbing. I could see also that his girlfriend was touched and understood what I had done and what was my intention.

We finished dinner in silence and afterward they retired to privacy where I am sure they reconciled and likely found a new understanding of one another and what would need to change for them to save their relationhip. Though they have not said anything to me about it, I trust that this is what happened.

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Following is the substance of the meditation and mantra:

In this session we will do a wonderful practice called Ho'oponopono. It is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. The Hawaiian word translates into English as 'to correct' or 'to make right.' It is a very powerful technique to make relationships right with people, ancestors, and also the relationship you have with yourself. It helps to clean up the heart and mind from stuck emotions like anger, sadness and frustration which can cause so many conflicts, illnesses and sufferings in our lives. It's a technique to purify how one sees and creates one's own reality, and to see the pure nature of this reality without the projections and creations of one's own mind.

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And setting the intention for this session: to make something right, to bring balance, harmony, peace back into our life, our heart, our relation. Taking a moment to feel gratitude, you can do this session now. Like you feel already something is going to be healed, is going to be made right. Wonderful. Thank you.

Bring to mind the person, the situation, or yourself, you want to make something right with. For a moment, understand that there is a conflict, a certain friction, and you want to make it right.

You're sorry that this friction is there. You're sorry that you're part of this friction. And bringing to mind a feeling of “I'm sorry that it is how it is. I am sorry that I am part of this conflict. I understand that it's also my responsibility for how this has created suffering in my own mind, in my life. I'm sorry. I take responsibility.”

And then also bringing in the feeling of “please forgive me,” bringing a state of forgiveness, of acceptance towards the other. Towards yourself. “Please forgive me.”

And when the heart can be cleared, there is space for true acceptance of yourself and the other and recognizing there was something to be learned in this, a life experience growing the spirit, so that you can say: “Thank you. Thank you for forgiveness. Thank you for what I've learned.”

Feeling gratitude so that there can be true acceptance, kindness, that the heart can open to feel compassion and love, that you can say: “I love you. I love you.”

So then for some time… repeat this sentence, a mantra. You can do this either out loud or in the mind:

“I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” - really feeling with each sentence, so that the heart, the mind, can be purified, can be free.

I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.